I’ve been meeting with a gifted athlete and student, not yet a believer. He was raised in the church, so he knows the storyline, but he’s not yet committed his life to Jesus and he knows it. The good news is, like many young people, he finds Jesus compelling and wants to believe, but is wary of religious Christianity.
Perhaps you too, have a son, or daughter, or grandchild who believes Jesus is the son of God and has an interest in being more like him, but just doesn’t know what it means to step over the line and follow him.
The following is a presentation I’ve used of what it means to leave your old life and commit yourself to another life and lifestyle. Please cut me some slack. This isn’t a presentation of the gospel but once a person has been presented with the basic facts of the gospel story, what does it mean to “commit your life to Jesus Christ?”
Healthy parents want their children to learn to live independently. However, when they return home, we often treat them as the children we raised, rather than the adults they are becoming.
Even if you’re a long way from that time of life or your past it and are empty-nesters yourself, read this blog and if you agree, forward it to a friend or relative about to face these decisions.
Unfortunately, the Bible gives very little specific directions about these issues. The following are ideas my wife, Susan and I learned by painful trial and error after raising six college students of our own.
There’s a little book someone put me on to entitled, True Friendship, by Vaughan Roberts. There’s a question he asks in it that reminded me of a question I used to ask myself but haven’t recently;
If you were the devil, where would you attack yourself?
It’s been a long time since I’ve asked myself that question. So, my first question to myself was, “Is one of Satan’s plans for attacking me, to get me to stop asking that question?” I think the answer was “yes.”
Many of the men I mentor were raised by legalistic parents or in a legalistic church. While they believe legalism isn’t spiritually healthy, they’re often clueless as to how to teach their own children to live Christ-like lives, without rules.
The first thing I tell them is this; you can’t raise children or spiritually mature adults, without teaching them that there are rules for Christian living! Isn’t that legalism? I don’t think so. Legalism is a form of Christianity that adds extra-biblical, man-made rules, to God’s laws.
So, here are some ideas to teach your children or those you mentor, to organize their thinking about these issues. All Christian thoughts, and moral, or ethical teachings fall into one of these three general categories: